The Patience of the Blessed Virgin Mary

The following is a lesson on the subject of the patience of the Blessed Virgin Mary. It is an excerpt from The Glories of Mary by St. Alphonsus Liguori (b. 1696- d. 1787):

“This world being a place of merit, is rightly called a valley of tears; for we are all placed in it to suffer, that we may, by patience, gain our own souls unto life eternal, as our Lord Himself says, In your patience you shall possess your souls. [Luke 21 19] God gave us the Blessed Virgin Mary as a model of all virtues, but more especially as an example of patience. St. Francis de Sales, amongst other things, remarks, that it was precisely for this reason that at the marriage-feast of Cana Jesus Christ gave the Blessed Virgin an answer, by which He seemed to value her prayers but little: Woman, what is that to thee and to Me? [John 2:4] And He did this that He might give us the example of the patience of His most holy Mother. But what need have we to seek for instances of this virtue? Mary’s whole life was a continual exercise of her patience; for, as the Angel revealed to St. Bridget, ‘as a rose grows up amongst thorns, so did the Blessed Virgin grow up amongst tribulations.’ Compassion alone for the Redeemer’s sufferings sufficed to make her a martyr of patience. Hence St. Bonaventure says, ‘that a crucified Mother conceived a crucified Son.’ In speaking of her dolors, we have already considered how much she suffered, both in her journey to Egypt, and during her residence there, as also during the time she lived with her Son in the house at Nazareth. What Mary endured when present at the death of Jesus on Calvary is alone sufficient to show us how constant and sublime was her patience: There stood by the Cross of Jesus His Mother. Then it was that precisely by the merit of her patience, as Blessed Albert the Great says, she brought us forth to the life of grace.”

“If we, then, wish to be the children of Mary, we must endeavor to imitate her in her patience: ‘For what,’ says St. Cyprian, ‘can enrich us with greater merit in this life, and greater glory in the next, than the patient enduring of sufferings?‘ God said, by the prophet Osee, I will hedge up thy way with thorns. [2:6] To this St. Gregory adds, that ‘the way of the elect is hedged with thorns.’ As a hedge of thorns protects a vineyard, so does God protect His servants from the danger of attaching themselves to the earth, by encompassing them with tribulations. Therefore St. Cyprian concludes that it is patience that delivers us from sin and from Hell.”

“It is also patience that makes Saints: Patience hath a perfect work, [James 1:4] bearing in peace, not only the crosses which come immediately from God, such as sickness, poverty, but also those which come from men—persecutions, injuries, and the rest. St. John saw all the Saints bearing palm branches—the emblem of martyrdom—in their hands; After this I saw a great multitude, and palms were in their hands; [Apoc. 7:9] thereby denoting that all adults who are saved must be martyrs, either by shedding their blood for Christ or by patience.”

“‘Rejoice then,’ exclaims St. Gregory, ‘we can be martyrs without the executioner’s sword, if we only preserve patience.’ ‘Provided only,’ as St. Bernard says, ‘we endure the afflictions of this life with patience and joy.’ O what fruit will not every pain borne for God’s sake produce for us in Heaven! Hence the Apostle encourages us, saying, That which is at present momentary and light of our tribulation worketh for us above measure exceedingly an eternal weight of glory. [2 Cor. 4:17]”

“St. Teresa’s instructions on this subject are beautiful. She used to say, ‘Those who embrace the cross do not feel it;’ and elsewhere, ‘that if we resolve to suffer the pain ceases.’ When our crosses weigh heavily upon us, let us have recourse to Mary, who is called by the Church ‘the Comfortress of the afflicted;’ and by St. John Damascene, ‘the Remedy for all sorrows of the heart.'” 

“Ah, my most sweet Lady, thou who wast innocent didst suffer with so much patience; and shall I, who deserve Hell, refuse to suffer? My Mother, I now ask thee this favor—not, indeed, to be delivered from crosses, but to bear them with patience. For the love of Jesus, I entreat thee to obtain at least this grace for me from God; from thee do I hope for it with confidence.”  (end of excerpt)